I Hope That Something Better Comes Along
A friend of a friend is getting married today, and it has be reflecting on the topic of marriage in general. A brief thought:
Back in the good old days, marriage was conducted like a fancy man’s business arrangement. One man (the bride’s father) would sell another man (the groom to be or his father) a woman for a dowry of some sort. I’m sure usually there was a goat or two involved. Now that were more civilized, more sophisticated, the marriage arrangement consists of a woman “selling” herself to a man — in my experience with no intention of delivering the goods listed on the bill of sale.
I don’t really think I see the merit in marriage anymore. For full disclosure, I’m on my way out of a disaster and it’s quit possible my view on the topic is somewhat skewed. However; I’d like to think that my opinion isn’t merely emotional, but observational. For example, the couples I know personally participating in wedlock all exhibit certain universal, and quite miserable, characteristics:
- They all seem to harbor some form of resentment towards their better half. Each partner holds the other responsible for something gone awry in their own life.
- Each couple willingly, and often publicly, walks around with an Ace up their sleeve. The partners feel the need to have some offence that should have been since forgotten and forgiven ready to be vocalized at a moments notice in order to retain some semblance of control within the relationship.
- Whenever their spouse isn’t around, they never seem to miss an opportunity to verbally tare them to shreds.
- Their fights are reiterative. Sure every marriage will have fights, but most often when these couples “bury the hatchet”, they dig a shallow grave and make sure it’s well marked.
Don’t take me too seriously, I’m sure there are some “good” marriages; but I think they are few and far between.
Ladies and gentlemen, the great philosopher Rolf the Dog: